Tăcerea vine prima vorbeşte despre trauma unei familii contemporane şi despre blocajele de comunicare dintre mai multe generații de femei. Atunci când tăcerea se instalează într-o familie, toate comportamentele sunt creatoare de traume. Singura soluție pare să fie depășirea fricii și deschiderea rănilor.
Subiectul principal îl reprezintă relația complicată a Dorei, pe de o parte cu mama sa intruzivă și veșnic nemulțumită, pe de altă parte cu fiica adolescentă care începe să-și ceară dreptul la independență. Crescută într-o familie în care femeile și bărbații au fost dintotdeauna într-un raport de forță, copiii au acoperit goluri și dureri, fericirea personală n-a părut necesară, mamele au îmbătrânit urât, iar tații, în tăcere, Dora preferă fantasma realității. Într-un moment de curaj, ea intră într-o relație online cu Toma. Totuși, chiar și după ce ajunge la Braşov, acolo unde locuieşte bărbatul, spaima de a nu fi dezamăgită o face să se întoarcă acasă, fără ca întâlnirea să aibă loc. Când însă, Toma vine în București și o sună, Dora este nevoită să ia o decizie. Nu înainte de a rupe tăcerea şi a da cărţile pe faţă, într-o discuţie cu mama ei.

“Silence Comes First" explores the trauma within a contemporary family and the communication barriers between multiple generations of women. When silence takes root in a family, every behavior becomes a source of trauma. The only solution seems to be overcoming fear and confronting old wounds.
The central theme is on one hand Dora's complicated relationship with her intrusive and perpetually dissatisfied mother, and on the other the dynamic with her teenage daughter, who is beginning to assert her right to independence. Raised in a family where women and men were always engaged in a power struggle, where children filled voids and covered up pain, Dora searches for an escape. After a childhood where personal happiness seemed unnecessary, where mothers aged poorly, and fathers remained silent, Dora prefers the fantasy over reality. In a moment of courage, she enters an online relationship with Toma. However, even after she travels to Brașov, where Toma lives, her fear of disappointment drives her to return home without meeting him. But when Toma comes to Bucharest and calls her, Dora is forced to make a decision. However, she can only do that after breaking the silence and laying all the cards on the table in a conversation with her mother.

Lucio falls in love with "the boy" even before meeting him: just watching him from the window of his office is enough for him to become almost obsessed. When they finally meet, he discovers that Davide is much younger than him (still studying), and that he is elusive, unreliable, and "cruel" in the way only twenty-year-olds can be cruel.

For two months, Lucio and Davide have dinner together, have sex, go to the beach, and often sleep at Lucio's place. However, Davide does not fall in love. He continues to seek Lorenzo, the only man he (perhaps) truly loved, of whom he keeps only a pixelated photo on an old cellphone. Like many twenty-year-olds, he is also confused, wounded, and willing to nestle into the routine of always having a Coca-Cola ready for him in the refrigerator.

"Di me non sai" tells the story of a relationship lived in an opposite, incompatible way, whose nature is revealed to the reader only as the novel progresses. Alternating the perspectives of the two protagonists in short, sometimes very short chapters, Raffaele Cataldo shows the misalignment of feelings and the painful consequences it can have, the slow pace of hot Apulian summers, and the obsessive loves (present and absent) that, like wild oat seeds, cling to hair, shoes, and clothes.